I am writing after such a long time. Blame tenth grade and its hectic schedule for that.
So, an incident narrated by my friend to me inspired this post. And when I thought about it, it actually brought a lot of things to my mind. Everyone knows what puppy love is, or infatuation. One and the same. So well, it's kind of an inappropriate thing for people to start dating from a very young age, that's what they say, right? Since it sometimes affects your studies and gives you a lot of emotional issues to cope up with. When I was mentally comparing a marriage and dating at a young age, I came up with a very important point. Okay, they say that dating at a young age is a very naive and child-like thing to do, in fact we get into such complications because we are not enough mature to realise what is good for us and what is not. But think of it this way, in India, a country said to have unity in diversity faces so many religion-based conflicts. Directly or indirectly it affects our lives, of course. Marriages are done following caste system. People keep a track of matrimonials regularly hoping to find someone with a suitable religious background. ''I am hindu, and if you are muslim, then there is noway we can have a future together, even if I would genuinely like to.'', that's the kind of thing I'm talking about. But that is so unfair. What if you are more compatible with someone who is not of your religion. Not necessarily 'love' but simply who you are more comfortable with. Now getting back to dating, when you are friends, you are friends because you adore the person and have fun with them. You date them because they are simply nice to hang out with. You don't disown anyone because he is a muslim or any other religion. You don't think of your parents' approval while dating someone, right? Maybe that's because it's not that serious. But nevertheless, I fail to see the point behind calling a puppy love as a symbol of child-like behavior and immaturity. I mean, if you distinguish people on the basis of their caste and religion it is you who is behaving child-like. I'm not taking sides, but yes, commenting on someone's religion is presumptuous behavior.
However, it's our Indian thinking and someday we will get over it, but till then passing snarky comments like 'why a muslim?' is not going to do any good.